Dating can be complicated. One situation that makes dating even more complicated is dating a single mother. There are certain rules that apply which do not when dating a woman who does not have children. If you are dating, or considering dating a single mother, you should know the following tips.
#1 Don’t Be a Player
Playing a single mom can backfire on your seriously. Most single mothers are looking for something long term. You can play a single mother, however, when she catches on to your game, there could be serious consequences. Not only will you hurt her, but you risk hurting her children as well.
#2 Be Forward With Your Intentions
Pretending that you are interested in a woman just so that you can have a fling is wrong. Doing this to a single mother is even more wrong. Many single mothers are looking for something serious. If you pretend that you are looking for something that you are not, you are wasting time that she could be spending with someone who is really serious about being in a relationship. You should always be sincere and genuine when it comes to your feelings and intentions.
#3 Be Genuine With Her Children
If your relationship gets to the level where you meet her kids, you should be yourself. Children are smarter than you think. If you are being fake with them, thee y will pick up on it. Being nice and showing genuine interest in them is a plus. As long as you do not try to hard, they should start showing interest in you before you know it.
#4 Romance Her
All women want to be romanced. Single moms may need it more than most women. Their daily lives revolve around carpool, homework, PTA meetings, and work. A little bit of romance can go a long way with a single mom. You do not need to go overboard. Something as simple as a sweet text or flowers mean a lot.
#5 Learn to be Flexible
When you are dating a single mom, you need to learn how to be flexible and patient. You might have a dinner date planned for a week, and at the last minute she needs to cancel. It could because her child is sick, or the child’s father changed visitation days. Whatever the reason, a single mom’s plans can change in the blink of an eye. It is important that you understand that her children are her priority, and she has nobody to share the responsibility with. The more patient and flexible you are, the better your relationship will be.
#6 Understand Her Priorities
A single mom has a great deal of priorities, and she often needs to put them in order of what needs to be handled the most. While she has a lot going on, it is important to understand that you are a priority as well. Her priorities just shift each day. It is important not to take it personally if you are not number one that day.
#7 Be Considerate of Her Time
Most single moms will have less free time than you. They need to balance their time with their children, work, and their social life. Because they need to stretch their time between so many things, you could end up feeling left out. You should avoid trying to make plans for Saturday night on Saturday afternoon. Chances are she is booked, considering she does not have much free time. It is a good idea to find out what her custody agreement with her children’s father is. You can use this information to find time that you can spend together. Be sure to ask in advance so that she can pencil you in.
#8 Be Prepared to Have “The Talk” Early
It is important to understand that most single moms will want to have the talk about where the relationship is going early on. She will not be doing this because she wants you to put a ring on her finger right away. She will do this because she does not want to waste time on someone who is not on the same page as her.
#9 Expect to Be Involved With Her Children
If you are someone who does not like children, you should not date a single mother. At some point in the relationship, she will want you to meet her kids. As time goes on, she will want you to be a part of their lives. If you cannot see yourself with children, steer clear of single moms.
#10 The Kids May Not Like You
If you are dating a single mom, and her children do not like you, don’t take it personally. If her relationship with their father ended recently, the children will feel that it is their duty to hate you, out of respect for their father. Children are very easy. Eventually, they will see what a good person you are, and how happy you make their mother. In the meantime, suck it up and take whatever they dish out. It will all be worth it in the long run.
Dating a single mother is not always easy. If she is the right person, it will be worth all of the hassle that it has caused.